My husband and I are in a bit of a rough spot. About a month ago he lost his job. We had a bit of money saved up, so we will be ok as long as he isn’t without work for a long time. But, it just sucks because the reason we were saving up this money was to move into a different apartment. As you may remember from previous posts, our current apartment has had a few issues and we just really want to move on.
However, suddenly having one less income puts a huge damper on our plan. Now, we were looking at places that were only 100-200 dollars more expensive than our current residence, but we all know that unfortunately, that is not the only cost of moving. And actually, all of the added costs frustrate me a lot. You can’t just give them rent and a damage deposit and have everything be fine and dandy. Oh no, it’s first and last months rent, a non-refundable damage deposit, plus another deposit that sometimes equals what the rent is. Suddenly I’m looking at putting down 3500 dollars just to move into a place. And we just don’t have that kind of money right now.
But of course, my husband still wants to look at apartments. And I understand because I want to move too. But the only scenario I see working out is a place that is around the same price we’re paying now, and only makes you put a few hundred dollars deposit down and nothing else. And that doesn’t really exist. But we go to these places and my husband tells me how it could work out, we could do it, I’ll probably have a job by then. But we can’t afford to live in the world of “what might happen.” We have to live in the world of the here and now where we have only one income, and can’t afford much. I end up having to constantly be the sensible one, and I hate it because I have to have the same argument with him over and over. Eventually, I can make him understand the reality of the situation, but I have to fight to do it each time, and I’m getting tired. I would love to move, but the more places we visit, the more I feel like it is a fleeting dream. And I’ve accepted that, but I’m not so sure my husband has. He keeps thinking we can do it, but doing it would mean wiping out our bank account almost entirely. And that to me is not a good idea considering we don’t know when he will be working again. Sometimes being the sensible one sucks.
I’m sorry, Snow! You’re right- this is an awful time for your prince to not have a job. It’s so hard to make decisions about your income in the future year when you just don’t know what it will be. I hope you guys get something sorted out though- and that you will be able to get an awesome new place.
I’ll be praying for you!
Thanks for sharing this. I know this hasn’t been your best few months. I don’t know what to say to help. The only thing I can think of is that you don’t always have to be the sensible one in everything. Maybe you always will be in things like money or real world choices but maybe make sure you take your chance to dream big in other things. Like how you spend your time together or how ambitious your meals are. Push yourself and him in other ways and you’re bound to find a few things he’ll slow you down on.
as hard as it is on you, I think his big dreams are a good thing for your relationship. You never know, maybe you’ll find the perfect apartment at a decent price. It can’t hurt to try.