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Shooters at School: A Teacher’s Nightmare

As with most of my news these days, I found out on Facebook. I had just gotten home from work and was checking my newsfeed, and I saw a post from a high school classmate: a link to a breaking news story about a school […]

A Few of the Best and Worst Things about Teaching

  This year I have been teaching for the first time. I am teaching first year undergraduates Old English. And it’s great! Except, you know, when it’s a pain. In this post I decided to write my thoughts about the best- and worst- things about […]

Condition of the Month: October Distractions

Condition of the Month: October Distractions

We’ve all been a little (try a lot) distracted this month, so rather than scrap our monthly condition post we’ve just decided to post it now (very, very late) and talk about the things that distract us.

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sleeping booty tileMan oh man am I busy. That’s a fact. But who is to say which parts of my life are the distractions and which are the real things that I should be focused on? Sure finding a job and applying for health insurance are things I need to do, but isn’t spending time with my mother watching a television show we both love just as important? Since I’m about to move out my parents’ house for good I have to buy a new bed for my new place and stock up on groceries, but I also have photos from my spring trip to Paris and Spain and Ireland that my friends have been not so patiently waiting to see. Which is the distraction? Should I work to submit my photobook vouchers that expire at the end of the month or to finish the half written blog posts that never seem done? Should I spend my time working out or catching up on the news, cleaning the bathroom or trying to get a letter of recommendation? All I really want to do is to organize my room by sewing up another t-shirt quilt and scrapbooking all my high school boxes, but with so many other things with actual deadlines I just never feel ahead. And as if these distractions aren’t enough, throw other people into the mix and you’ve got one super unfocused person. You already know I spent an unreasonable portion of my summer preparing for my friend’s wedding, and you won’t believe how much time I’ve spent helping my brother with school and housing and everything else in his life. I write letters to friends, head out on hikes to catch up and go on trips just because I think they’ll appreciate it. My friend is going through a bad breakup and I’m even part of a secret Facebook group called Support Our Friend where we come up with ways we can help her. I could easily spend my whole life distracted by other people. But as distracting as friendships are, they’re worth it and as never ending as my projects are, they matter to me. Sure, I feel constantly distracted, like I should always be somewhere else doing something else, but I also always feel accomplished, because I’m constantly working to check things off my list. If I go on Facebook it’s to strengthen a friendship, if I am washing the dishes I’m making my family proud, if I make a scrapbook I’m de-cluttering my life. It’s true, all these things distract me from figuring out a career and a future, but all the things I choose to do make me who I am. And it’s exciting to realize that no matter what I do, nothing can distract me from that.

-Sleeping Booty

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cinderslut tile (2)Unlike any school I’ve ever attended, my current school had a two-week break at the beginning of October, so I got to go visit Merskank in the U.K. and relax for a while, which was really nice after a whirlwind first month of work. But for the last week it’s been back to school and back to the grindstone. I can tell you that I have a huge to-do list, with most of the items being school related. This is just part of life as a teacher—the work never ends. Luckily, I like doing what I do, so it doesn’t stress me out to have two novel units just getting off the ground and another one (on a book I haven’t actually gotten around to reading) imminently approaching, plus a social studies course, applying for a lead teacher position, an afterschool club, and other assorted responsibilities. Well, it doesn’t stress me out too much. Other than work, there isn’t too much to distract me, honestly. My husband and I are both in a busy season professionally, so we pretty much come home, collapse, cuddle for a few minutes, and then engage in what I like to call garden therapy. We walk around the backyard, look at the veggie plants just starting to sprout up (and our banana tree, which is just starting to bear fruit!) and talk about our days. And then…we have dinner and are in bed by 9 p.m., ready to do it all the next day. It’s busy, but it sure beats being unemployed!

-Cinderslut

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snowwhore tileDistractions. Right now I feel like I’m letting life itself be a distraction. Lately I’ve been feeling that its time for me to make some job/career changes, but I hate the thought of applying to jobs and so I let my normal “busy life” be an excuse/distraction to keep me from actually putting effort towards making positive changes in my life. I will always be busy, so it’s not really a good excuse, but if I have to focus on work for 40 hours a week, and my home/social life for the rest of the time, than I can distract myself from the part of me that wants more. I know that it will get harder to keep that part of me silent, but at the same time, my fear of change and risk can be pretty loud as well.  It’s definitely not a good long term solution, but it’s just so easy to do. And don’t all of us to some extent let the comfort of our everyday lives distract us from pursuing our goals and dreams? It is easier to consume yourself in the small dramas of everyday life than to ask yourself what you really want. Because if you ask yourself what you really want, one of two things will happen. Either you will realize that you have no idea what you really want (which is frustrating), or you will recognize what you really want but realize that getting there will be huge challenge and you don’t know if you have the guts to go through with it( which is terrifying). So when we come to that point, what do we do? We pretend like we never had the thought in the first place and go back to distracting ourselves.  But a life of distraction is not a very full life, and secretly we all know it.  The question is—what are we going to do about it? What will I do about it? At this point, I’m really not sure.

-Snow Whore

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little merskank tile   Merskank has been the busiest of all of us lately what with TEACHING at Oxford, writing her thesis, and being a supportive friend, daughter, and girlfriend. Her answer to this question is yet to come.

Another Post on Teaching

Another Post on Teaching

So, as you have all heard, Cinderslut has become a teacher. She’s passed all of her classes, done her student teaching, and landed herself a new teaching job this fall. Many congrats to her! However, this post is about me. It turns out that two […]

The 5 People I Didn’t Meet in High School

Okay, who am I kidding? If there’s one thing I have learned from spending the last four months teaching in a public high school, it’s that there are way more than five types of students. It’s really a grab-bag out there, with the future Presidents, […]

March COTM: Teaching?

If you are new here, every month we princesses all opine on a single question or issue.  This month we are talking about teaching!  Pretty much everyone knows a teacher– or, in the case of Cinderslut, is one– and we all have our own opinions on what it takes to be a good teacher.

sleeping booty tileOh man, I love everything about being a teacher except the actual teaching part. Give me children of any age, some craft supplies, summers off and I’d be set for life, but ask me to lecture for an hour or think of a lesson plan or, heaven forbid, grade papers I’ll straight up cry in your face. Why can’t there be such thing as a kindly, advice-giving, hobby facilitator that kids all have to spend ten or so hours a week with?

As a soul searching 20-something with a degree in mathematics and no career plan to speak of, my teaching ability is questioned daily. I’m not exaggerating when I say that in the last two weeks I’ve been told at least 5 times that I should consider being a teacher, and I can’t deny it’s enticing when an overwhelming percentage of the people I’ve met on this adventure so far are teachers of some sort, taking advantage of their breaks to explore the world.

The life of a teacher is rewarding, I saw that when I coached high school basketball and my girls stepped up to make the difficult choices, and entertaining, I still laugh to myself at the jokes the kids told me when I taught science summer camp a few summers ago, but it’s also incredibly difficult, asking you to say goodbye on a regular basis and sometimes makes choices on whether or not a child can be taught.

I know I’ve gotten off subject, but the thing is I do know what makes a good teacher and… I think I have it. I care about the success of others, I enjoy learning and creating and sharing. I’d enjoy the changing seasons and I’d thrive as an afterschool coach/club director/school supporter, encouraging all subjects and all career paths. I read other people fairly well, and don’t push over when I really believe I’m right. I even love the idea of making my own grading scale – think of all the possibilities!

As for my teaching style I know I’m very hands off; I like to let people make their own decisions and then help them understand what worked and what didn’t. I don’t want to tell a kid what the main points of a novel are, I want him to tell me and prove to me why; I don’t want to teach someone the correct way of solving the problem, but give her options and let her choose which makes the most sense.

I know I’d love being a teacher, and though right now I lack the confidence and authority to actually become one, one day I’ll probably end up there.

snowwhore tileWhen I think about the best teachers that I’ve ever had, one thing comes to mind. Passion.  A good teacher is one who is passionate about the subject matter, and is able to so effectively communicate that passion that it becomes your passion as well.

I have never been a fan of math. I excelled in my math classes growing up, but only because I was a goody two shoes and worked really hard because grades meant everything to me.  However, I loved Calculus. I looked forward to that class, and genuinely enjoyed doing it. Why? Because my teacher was passionate and amazing.  He cracked jokes, and read us Dave Barry articles, and took the time and effort to break down the equations as much as we needed until we had a comprehensive understanding.  I still don’t like math, but I loved Mr. Johnson’s calculus class.

However, when I think about passionate teachers, I know that I have the two best examples right at home.  My mother teaches elementary music and my dad is an elementary librarian.  They put everything into teaching because they know how important it is.  They never do anything on autopilot, and they never take the easy way out. Most music concerts in elementary schools feature the kids on stage standing in rows and singing. But not my mother’s concerts.  She has a full set of marimbas that she teaches the older kids to play, kindergartners are given rhythm blocks and tambourines, and every Christmas she also puts on a full musical, sometimes they are ones she has written herself.  And my dad is the same way in his library. He has costumes and puppets that he uses to do full productions during story time. He creates his own unique curriculum to teach the kids everything they need to know about every computer program and lets them do their own primitive graphic design projects and PowerPoint presentations.  He has even created his own superhero called Captain Read Right, who rollerblades around the school making the different classrooms compete to see who can read the most.

Passion makes all the difference in teaching. That’s what my parents showed me every day growing up. I still have people who come up to me in my hometown and tell me how my mom or dad was their favorite teacher. They will always be my standard for judging excellence in educators.

cinderslut tile (2)Well, in about 8 weeks I will hold a Master’s in Teaching degree, so it follows that I should know a thing or two about this topic. That being said, although I’ve spent the better part of two years of my life pursuing this degree, and I’ve read up on plenty of pedagogy, I know I won’t truly be a “Master” teacher for many more years. Teaching is something you can only learn to do by doing it.

Still, if I had to pick one thing that makes a teacher great, I’d go with engagement. This educational buzzword really is the key to everything, because if you can’t keep your students interested, they won’t learn a thing. And if they don’t learn a thing, you haven’t actually taught anything. In college I had a couple of truly awful classes in which the professors (tenured, of course) spent hours talking at us, but never really engaged us with the material. They may have had advanced degrees and been knowledgeable experts in their subject, but today I cannot remember a thing from their class, other than how deeply, deeply I despised being there. They were terrible teachers, because they didn’t bother to pursue engagement.

Last year, teaching high school English, I mostly BSed my way through the year, but I was still successful, and I attribute that not to my Master’s degree, my own knowledge, or anything else but the simple fact that I kept things interesting, mixed it up, played games, let the students make choices, listened to their opinions, and they bought in. They engaged.

The really great teachers do a lot of other things too, but I think it all starts with engagement. And in my experience, bringing chocolate-chip pumpkin cookies for the class never hurts, either.

little merskank tileA few weeks ago I was asked to read a book called Learning to  Teaching in Higher Education—and it accomplished its goal:  it got me thinking about teaching.   However, I found that I somehow found something disagreeable in the approach of the book.  It was very modern and stressed the importance of teaching ‘learning’ over ‘information’.  On the surface I agree with this distinction, yet when I thought about it more I realized precisely how important ‘information’ can be. Sometimes think that in our rejection of old fashioned teaching techniques we have effectively thrown out the baby with the bath water.  Of course, none of us likes the paradigm of rote memorization of tables and figures, but it is a problem I think if the facts and figures are never learnt at all.  I see this particularly in modern language study where important grammatical concepts are glossed over or not addressed, to, I believe, the ultimate detriment of the student.

Of course, the ideal is to convey both information and promote learning in an engaging way.  Now, for me, when I think about teaching I think about teaching at the university—which is I think something fundamentally different than teaching at high school, which is what the other princesses have mostly written about.  At the high school level (or earlier) the teacher is very much is the facilitator between the student and the material.  However, at the college level when you are teaching adults, and I feel like the student’s interest and participation has to be somewhat their own responsibility.   To some degree, I think that at the university level good teaching is as much about not inhibiting the student as it is about helping them—it is about letting them think independently, not confining them to certain sets of opinions or approaches, and letting them learn freely.  In practice, some students need more help than others, and there has to be a grey middle ground—but ultimately, I would say that the best teachers give students the tools to do their own learning.

And what about you reader?  What’s your teaching philosophy? 

Condition of the Month-January

It’s everyone’s favorite time of the month again. Since we just started a new year, the princesses decided to do a bit of reflection. Being in your twenties is the awkward time  when you don’t really feel like an adult but you don’t think you’re […]

Worth it

I’ve always wanted to be a teacher, and I knew from a young age that meant setting myself up for a lifetime of relatively low wages and under-appreciation. But you don’t go into teaching because you want to make money. Still, when I was offered […]

Confessions of an English Teacher who Doesn’t Read

Summer is almost here, guys, and I for one am getting really excited. I’m a teacher, so summer means an extended vacation from work, and yes, I’ve been looking forward to those blissful days just as much as my students have for months now. This year I have big plans for my summer, and one item near the top of that list is reading.books in 20s

Reading, you say? But don’t you get enough of that during the school year, being an English teacher and all? Well, to put it plainly, no.

It goes without saying that I love to read. I mean, why else would I have majored in English and become a high school English teacher? It’s true that I’ve always been a reader and love curling up with a good book, but the problem is—I can’t remember the last time that actually happened. At school this year my students and I only made it through two full-length books amid the hodge-podge of other curricular pursuits: The Crucible and The Things They Carried. And, while I loved reading and discussing those two great works, the sheer amount of work generated by my job left me entirely bereft of extra time to crack open other books.

This is not a new problem for me. In fact, I’d say it’s been about 10 years since I really regularly found the time to read for pleasure. In high school and college my schedule was jam-packed, and the mountains of required reading for school always seemed to get in the way of me working my way through the best-sellers and classics that called to me from bookstore and library shelves. In the year after college I did manage to read books 1-5 of George R.R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire series, and I’m so glad I did. Shameless plug—they’re awesome, and Snow Whore SERIOUSLY needs to read them. But damn old George hasn’t finished the 6th and 7th books yet, so even that undertaking remains unconcluded. In the meantime I got married, started a Master’s degree, and got my first teaching job. And with that, my pleasure-reading time became as mythical as Westeros and as elusive as a good Martin character who doesn’t die tragically (don’t even get me started on the end of book 5!)

Demotivational_Poster__Teacher_by_theflyingdutchman84I know you’ve heard this before: teaching is a lot of work and we don’t appreciate our teachers enough and blah blah blah. Well, let me just reiterate it again, because nothing could be more true. I can’t imagine too many jobs that cut into your spare time more than teaching high school English, at least based on my experience this year. I know, I’ll assign them an essay, and how about a couple of worksheets on the side? Sounds like a reasonable week’s work. Flashforward to the end of the week: Mrs. Cinderslut has 100 essays and 200 worksheets to grade over the weekend! Hurrah! You want to know why your high school English teachers always assigned such depressing books? Because they were suicidal!

Ok, perhaps I’m being a tad overdramatic. I love my job, but add to that the fact that most weeks I also have to write an essay or two for my Master’s degree, and you can easily see why I no longer read for fun. There just aren’t enough hours in the day, the week, the month, or the school year. And frankly, that’s sad. Because as an English teacher I know better than anyone the positive effect reading can have on academic achievement and on a person themselves. I cajole, order, and even beg my students to read, but I’m not truly modeling it myself. There’s something wrong with this picture.

The one exception is my nightly tradition of reading out loud with my hubby. Although what that usually looks like is my hubby reading to me while I fall asleep on his chest. At 9 pm. While I love that intimate time together, and we have slowly made our way through some good books, it’s not the same thing as getting hooked on a book and devouring it in a day, or spending hours relaxing with one of your long-time favorites.

The thing that brought this dearth of literature lovin’ to my mind (aside from the summer countdown I’ve had on the board in my class for the last month) was a link I recently saw entitled “65 Books You Need to Read in Your 20s.” Of course, I clicked, only to realize that, to my horror, my twenties are nigh on halfway over, and I have only read ONE of the books on the list (and sadly, it’s not #33). And thus my summer quest to rediscover my inner reader. I’m ready to rack up quite a bill on my kindle and waste away sunny days on the balcony, breathing in the scent of jasmine and sipping coffee. Keep me accountable, fellow Princesses, because I’ve made resolutions like this before and failed to keep them. Hell, maybe I’ll even start with some good ol’ Shakespeare, because despite what The Little Merskank says, I do like him.