What do you buy for the guy who has everything? As Christmas day approached, this was the question I was pondering in regards to a certain husband of mine. I’ve always known boys are more difficult to buy for than girls, my dad and brothers being good examples of this. But t
hen I went and married the most tricky recipient of them all. He simply doesn’t want much. Apparently he has always been this way; he was never the kid with a list a mile long. Even though I knew this about him going into our marriage, it has nevertheless caused frustration for me as I have struggled to come up with ideas for gifts that he would actually enjoy. Unfortunately, there are quite a few constraints on me. It can’t be anything too large, or we would not be able to bring it back home with us on the plane. It shouldn’t be something purely functional, like a trowel to work in the garden—that’s something we should just buy for ourselves if we need it. And I can’t go shopping by myself here in the desert kingdom, at least not without a lot of hassle.
So what to do? The other day I asked him to work on coming up with ideas for gifts, and he spent a good 45 minutes browsing the internet for various items of interest. Then, when I asked him whether any of those things would be good gifts, he said, “Not really, I don’t think I really want any of those things.”
My frustration was palpable. How can a person browse the internet for 45 minutes and not find even a single thing they would like to have? I asked him, “Don’t you ever see something someone else owns and think to yourself, ‘I wish I owned that too?’”
Apparently not.
He’s not a woman, so he won’t be appeased by any of the good old standbys that I would be perfectly happy to receive as a gift: jewelry, bath products, decorative house stuff, candles, clothes, accessories, etc.
I was actually very upset by his refusal to cooperate with my Christmas present plans. I was tempted to inform him that if that was how it was going to be, all the better, because I could save myself a lot of time and stress by not buying him any gifts for the next 50 years.
But then I stopped to think. Why should I be angry with my husband for basically telling me that there is nothing he needs or wants to make him happier? Why should the fact that he is perfectly content with our life together frustrate me? I should be counting my blessings, because I received the gift of a lifetime by marrying a guy who tells me and shows me daily that he is happiest just coming home to spend time with me.
So what he ended up unwrapping on Christmas day wasn’t anything guaranteed to make our life amazing, but it doesn’t matter. We already have that.
this is so cute i just gagged a little. but i totally agree with hubby on this one. christmas and gift giving isn’t about what you need or what you tell other people to get you. if i want something i’ll buy it for myself or you can give me cash to help. a gift is about coming up with something on your own that reminds you of the other person or you think they’ll like. if you cant think of anything then you aren’t looking in the right places. (would my brother EVER tell me he wanted a magazine subscription that is mailed to his house? NO. but I’m a genius and he loves it.) So Cinderslut, you’re right, no gift is going to make you life better, and I suppose there is a chance that you both really are incandescently happy, but i bet if you got him a coffee mug with something science-y on it or a chin up bar he’d flip.